Tuesday, July 10, 2012

self care & self soothing

This is such an IMPORTANT part of our lives.  We need to take care of ourselves.  We need to respect ourselves.  We need to love ourselves.  But it can be SO hard when the eating disorder is the one in control.  When we don't care about ourselves... how are we supposed to care for ourselves?  When I was struggling with my eating disorder and depression, I didn't care about myself at all.  I hated the things that I did, the way that I felt, the way that I looked... I hated me.  And I couldn't find my way out.  I didn't believe that I deserved any different.

But I did find my way out.  And now, in recovery, I am learning just how important self care and self soothing are in my life.  When I don't take care of myself I notice a difference.  In how I feel, how I think, how I act.  We only have one body.  That's it.  It's the only one we are going to get.  It is unique & special to us.  And it is beautiful.  Now in my life, I try to care for my body as best as I can.  I try to get enough sleep, proper nutrition, & a healthy amount of exercise.  I try to listen to my body when it is trying to tell me what it needs.  If I am sick, I rest.  If I am stressed, I try to relax and take a time out and go for a walk or something.  Learning these things took some getting used to because I had ignored & abused my body and what my body needed for so long, and it took time for me to recognize and be mindful of how important all of these things are.  But they really are so important.

Self soothing is also just as vital in our lives!  Throughout my recovery, I have found things through trial and error that work for me when I need to self soothe.  And the IMPORTANT thing is that they are healthy ways to self soothe instead of my old unhealthy behaviors.  Some of the things that I like to do to self soothe are: laying outside in the sun reading, writing, or just closing my eyes and relaxing.  Taking a nap, going for a walk, going for a drive, talking a bubble bath, getting a massage.  Exercising in a healthy way.  Coloring in a coloring book or drawing.  Putting together a jigsaw puzzle!  That is one of the things that relaxes me the most.  I love to sing along to music and sit on my floor and work on a puzzle.  Going to the park and swinging on the swings.  Playing sports.  Spending time with people I love.  Going window shopping or browsing through thrift stores and finding hidden treasures.

What are some of the ways that you use self care and self soothing in your life & in your recovery?  

Monday, July 2, 2012


This is one of my favorite songs.
It reminds me of recovery.
How incredibly scary it is to let go of something that was a part of you for so long 
and jump into the unknown world of recovery...

But believe me when I say that it IS worth it!
Recovery is where freedom is.
Where life is.  Where love is.   Where hope is.

It's our turn to be brave.